Name : Wan Nurafifah Hani Binti Wan Mohd Noor 16468
Is romantic love a good basis for marriage? Discuss.
Nowadays people may say that romantic love is a good basis for marriage but not all would agree including me. Why is that I don’t agree? For me, there is something more important to be a basis for marriage which is trust, honesty and interaction. It’s not that I don’t agree totally but romantic love might just be a minor part of it. Marriage nowadays not only happens when two people love each other but it is when two people are willing to trust, be honest, to endure the pain with each other. When both are willing to go through ups and downs together. That is something that we can rarely found nowadays which make a marriage last longer.
Moreover, romantic love is a poor basis for marriage at early ages, if there is no stability, especially economically; fights and discussions suddenly transform in divorce, love in hate and the other person unbearable. There is no one rushing people into marriage, if we are so modern, then modernly decide to wait and delete as much as possible such commitment. Love is the minor independent of marriage but marriage does not only depend on love but many other things. Things that sometime we also don’t even bother to know or care. For examples are like telling our mate about our good and bad or even when they are with us at the time of our hard moment. Good interactions between each other are the things we need in building a lasting relationship.
Now if romance is the most important thing to an individual than I can understand how romance is a basis for a marriage. However, I would like to ask anyone who would prefer a marriage based on romantic love, how long will romance last when there is friction? I want to make sure we are compatible in a lot of areas before I get into a lifelong commitment. Theoretically if romantic love was all you need, almost all marriages could occur within the first 2 months when relationships are the easiest. Those are the time when we and our partner are trying to show that we are the best for each other. But as time fly than maybe ourselves or even our partner might get bored and at that moment, our true colors are shown.
Last but not least, in my opinion romantic love is a poor basis for a marriage. I argue that Romance is a skill that can be developed and enhanced over time. Marriage is a decision that needs to be made looking at more aspects than just the love you are feeling at the moment, people should be looking at assuring areas that can lead to divorce. There’s a saying, “nobody goes into marriage looking to get divorced”, I think if you aren’t recognizing those issues that can lead to divorce you are looking to get divorced. I think discussing “IF X than Y” scenarios prior to any friction you are doing more for your marriage than mediocre romantic love. Marriage not only need that romantic love but it need more than that. Don’t just think that everyone in a marriage never had problems or romantic love can solve every complicated misunderstanding as every problem as its own way to be settled and romantic love is not the only way.
