Muhammad Fierdaus Bin Mohd Zaharin (16309)
Nik Fared Firdaus Bin Nik Mansor (16313)
Women are better parent than men.
“Men make A house, women make A home”. This quote picture the responsible of parents at home and it tends to be have been precise throughout history until now. My statement is women are better parent than men. This idea does not mean that men are not important in raising children but as we look over daily familial life, women are closer to children than men. If we see trough out many people life experience, women have usually proven themselves to be superior parents as a result of some reason.
The first reason I can tell is, women obtain more familial condition than men. Since they were young, most of the females enjoy learning about nurturing. They love to play with dolls, feed them, pretend that they are their mothers and sing them a lullaby. Later, they take care of younger brothers or sister. Girls show sympathize with the essential role of their mothers, and they often consider those activities, housework as being feminine duties. Compared to boys, they have so many differences. Boys like virile things such as football, guns, and vigorous heroes in movies. While boys dream to be as strong as Popeye the sailor man, or to conquer The Red planet, girls just want to be doctors, to help the poor, and to have a warm and happy family. Thus, girls have propensities in raising children.
Besides that, to prove my statement, girls are less aggressive, and their stamina is much greater than that of men. As we see, every war involves men. Men are judged to be the leaders. 85% of soldiers in the Department of DefenCe are men. That means men are usually proven to be aggressors in crime and war. Moreover, the New York Times has just reported that it would be better if you raise your children with calmness, sweetness but sometimes with sternness. Women are considered as sensitive, therefore, they know how to conduct flexibly, aware when to support the children or when to teach them. Having offspring is hard, but raising them to become good citizen is much harder.
In addition, from an evolutionary psychological perspective, is that Heather instinctively knew, as do most of us, that children are more important to their mothers than to their fathers, and, as a result, their loss would be more devastating to their mothers than to their fathers. It is not difficult to find abundant evidence for the fact that mothers are more dedicated to their children than fathers. For example, when married couples with children get divorced, chances are that the children stay with the mother, not the father, especially if they are young. According to the 1992 March/April Current Population Survey in the United States, conducted by the US Census Bureau on a nationally representative sample, 86% of custodial parents are mothers. Further, many of the noncustodial fathers who have agreed to pay child support, either voluntarily or via court order, default on their commitment and become “deadbeat dads." The first national survey of the receipt of child support, conducted in 1978, reveals that less than half (49%) of women awarded child support actually received the full amount due to them, and more than a quarter (28%) of them received nothing. The percentages have remained more or less constant since. In 1991, 52% of custodial parents awarded child support received the full amount; 25% of them received nothing.
On the surface, this massive sex difference in the dedication to children may appear puzzling, since both the mother and the father are equally related to their children genetically; each parent transmits half of their genes to their child. However, there are two biological factors that combine to make fathers far less committed as parents than mothers. The first is paternity uncertainty. Because gestation for all mammals (including humans) takes place internally within the female’s body, the male can never be certain of his paternity, whereas maternity is always certain. And paternity uncertainty is not a remote theoretical possibility. As I mention in a previous post, the estimated incidence of cuckoldry (men unwittingly raising and investing in another man’s genetic offspring) in contemporary Western societies is substantial (between 10% and 30%). Thus, this is a very realistic possibility for any father in contemporary Western society and probably elsewhere throughout human history as well. Naturally, men are not motivated to invest in children who have a distinct possibility of not being genetically theirs.
The final reason why I think women make better parents than men is women have better communication skill. In 1992, Swan made a survey about the differences between the brains of girls and boys. After some tests, he finally discovered that almost all girls had a better score in oral skills. Communication skills are one of the most important skills needed to become good parents, because your children inherit everything from their Mom and Dad such as behavior and character. Thus, verbal skills influence children a lot. There are many opponents about this issue. They said men could make better parents than women. Men are usually stern, harsh and straightforward and children need these characters to become good citizenships. Nowadays, a social issue is emerging many youths are arrested because of using heroine and sexual abuse Therefore, to protect children, parents must be stern and force children to follow their disciplinary rules. That also means there are not any instances of sweetness or calmness in their. This idea has some merit on the surface. Nevertheless, should we always follow these boring and nonsense rules? Children change their physical bodies and their souls everyday. Parents should listen to their children, do the best things for them, support them to stand up when they have fallen. In short, parents must be flexible, and willing to change. Being good parents does not mean just coerce your children to follow your words.
In conclusion, I advocate the idea that women make better parents than men. Women not only have many natural skills, such as good stamina, calmness, paternity uncertainty, but also some appropriate condition to become good parents, and that is why they have the greater role in raising children in most societies.
